What century do I live in?

Talk about a slap in the face and back in time. Okay, so here is the deal, I have been married for about 1 1/2 years now and I have an 8 month old baby - I take care of Zoe when I am not working. My weekely schedule equates to about 30 hours. Granted my hubby is a hard worker who puts in about 45 hours every week to help bring home the baccon, so to speak, but since when did it become my sole responsibility to take care of all the house hold chores we accumulate?!

I wash the laundry, fold it, and put it away. I am almost always the only one to wash Zoe's bottles, even though the hubby dirties up way more than I do in a single day. I am also a more frequent dish washer than he is when other family members don't pitch in to do it - Thank's DAD!!! I am the only one who has cleaned the bathroom from top to bottom since we moved back into my dad's place (we have our own bathroom upstaris). If I want the bedroom vaccumed or Zoe's toys picked up I have to do that as well.

So, on top of taking care of the baby more than he does, even when he is home, and working part time I am expected to be the perfect 60's house wife or some bull like that. He often asks what's for dinner - Like I have had time to think of that when I am just walking in the door at 5:15 p.m. and he has been home a good hour longer than me.

I don't want to say that my hubby never does anything - He does!!! He just mostly only cleans his mess in his own area. And, he only cooks when the mood strikes him or I will be working late, or he is really that hungry. He is great with Zoe when he has her - she even decided to say "Da Da" as her first real word. It's just that I'm tired of feeling like a slave.

To top everything off, if I don't feel as armourous as he does I dissapoint him and I hate that, but what can he expect with all that is on my plate?!! I mean I am not his mother, I should not have to constantly pick his dirty clothes up off the floor to put them in the dirty colthes hamper. And I am not a sex machine. I am a woman, who is not often in the mood as of late because I am tired and busy and when I want to relax sex is the furthest thing from my mind. (Don't worry, many women have confirmed that I am not alone in this feeling) I am also never going to be that perfect TV mom/wife who can do the stay at home homemaking things for long without grumbling because I do work.

So, I ask you, "What century do you live in?" I plan to find a way to fix things so that my hubby knows I am a woman of the latest century. A time when men can be stay-at-home dads and a little thing called the womens movement has been long since past and with it brought change, what is supposed to be equality of the sexes, and women's rights!